intuition exercises, part 1

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This morning a client asked if I had any exercises to recommend that could help her get in touch with her intuition.  I was ready to share those I’ve found very effective, yet something called me first to lay a better foundation. You see, intuition is like a spiritual muscle that becomes stronger with exercise.  And just like physical exercise, in order to be most effective we prepare our muscles in ways that make them perform better for us.  Sometimes it’s stretching.  Other examples like long distance running, we need to get some mileage under our belts before we are ready to go the distance.

Intuition is wisdom that is expressed from our inner world.  The process of tuning in to it requires that we allow ourselves the opportunity to experience what it feels, sounds or looks like.  We each learn in different styles and the voice of intuition appears in the form that we can connect with most naturally.  I get my higher level direction in visual form which arrives as symbols of concepts that I then interpret.  In the past couple of weeks these symbols have appeared as a hand reaching out and a sun rising from the horizon.  I knew what they meant immediately.  I also feel guidance and understandings through feelings I get which I know that I have not conjured up myself.  These are commonly referred to as information that we “just know”.

Strengthening your intuition is a process of giving credibility to the wisdom and learning to trust it.  Yet even before we can get this far we have to practice tuning in so that we have a sense of what we are giving credibility and trust to.  You wouldn’t normally invite a guest to dinner in your home that you hadn’t met, would you?  It’s the same thing with intuition.  There is a process of getting to know one another before the trust is developed.

Getting to know your inner wisdom requires some quiet time for you to tune in.  It doesn’t have to be a lengthy time.  It can be as little as five minutes where you acknowledge that there is wisdom there and you set the intention to let it flow to you.  It’s like tuning in to CNN in the evening and expecting Larry King Live to be on.  You’ve built the expectation of what will show up for you.  This is how you can look at your intuition.  It will be there for you if you expect it to. 

I have more to share with specific exercises for strengthening your intuition.  I’ll let you absorb this first and visit the exercises very soon.  If I can support you in this in any way, please send me your questions or comments.

when the train falls off the track

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It took my customer service experience from hell today to realize just how far I’d derailed myself off my path of positive life creation recently. It started with a call from the credit and collections office of the telecommunications company I consolidated all my services with last year. The nice woman called to advise me that my account was past due and my service would be discontinued if not paid by Friday. I received a past due notice from them last week which had sent me checking my payment history. My online banking statement reflected that the payment was taken from my account two weeks ago. I remember now how odd I thought that it would take so long for the funds to find their way to the accounts receivable department, yet I shrugged it off assuming that it was one of those checks crossed in the mail situations. Wrong!

One customer service agent later, I discovered that I had mistakenly sent electronic payment to the old long distance account I’d had with this carrier that has since merged with two other companies. I still haven’t figured out who acquired who, yet in my mind they should at least have the ability to talk to one another to settle their customer service problems. Wrong!

I found resolution when my second agent in India joined forces with my fifth in the U.S. It was music to my ears when these two women chimed that my problem was corrected and that I needn’t do anything else. This was an hour and a half after the initial collections call.

As someone who believes that all of life events have meaning, I have been thinking since then what this situation was meant to teach me. Clearly there is the lesson that I need to be more careful about how I enter payment dollars in my online banking program. Hopefully I won’t repeat that mistake. Yet my sense was that there is a greater lesson for me. In this awareness, I was struck with how far off track I’ve enabled myself to go in a short period of time.

Two weeks ago I was a guest on Martha Stewart Living Radio program Career Talk. I was feeling high with a sense of promise and belief in myself. Since then I have allowed myself to focus on things that are not happening fast enough in my business or to the degree that I want to see them. So I have derailed myself by my own thinking. Looking at how I responded to the frustrations of my day today helped me to understand where and how I’ve come off center. I momentarily lost touch with the fact that the creative love that connects us all also flows through me. I can tap into its power if I choose to. It is my choice to practice this power to put it to work for my life or I can choose to wallow in my own disappointments. It’s not my nature to wallow, which I think was behind the purpose of my experience today. I now feel strongly directed to get back on course with vision and trust.

inner voice earns role as CEO

It has struck me recently how aware I am of a little voice inside of me.  Well, I should clarify that it’s not really a voice, rather snippets of wisdom that somehow float to the surface without my digging.  What has struck me even more is how much I’ve come to trust this voice and let it lead my decisions.

Last night I came home from having dinner out with a friend to find an email from another friend sharing some left over thoughts about a telephone conversation we’d had earlier that day.  I had shared some information with this friend that had made her feel vulnerable and she was filling me in on the circle of her feelings.  I understood and honored where she was coming from, yet there was one thing that she said that was not attached to the issue that made me feel I was being attacked.

This is a friendship that I greatly treasure so I wanted to handle the situation with great care.  I reread the email two or three more times and was able to clearly recognize that it was coming from a place of love.  Yet there was a part of me that was asking if I should let this person “get away” with saying the thing that made me feel attacked without my addressing it.  After all, my history is such that I do tend to like to have the last word.  As I contemplated whether I should respond to this email or just wait to talk to my friend live as she suggested, I felt a very strong awareness of my inner voice telling me to just let it go.  The voice told me that standing up on the soapbox of my ego was only going to make matters worse.  I knew for certain that the voice was right so I listened.  I closed up that email and let myself absorb what had just happened.  I couldn’t recall having ever surrendered so effortlessly to a battle between my inner voice and my ego.  I felt like I had finally grown up.  I pondered then what had facilitated this.  Was it a sign of how much I didn’t want to destroy this friendship or was it showing me how much I am evolving?  Looking back the next day it feels like a combination of both.  And I’ll take that.

signs, signs, everywhere are signs

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Yesterday had the makings for a very frustrating day.  Two coaching clients canceled their morning sessions and my first appointment of the day was a total no show.  My morning had suddenly become so different than I expected.  So I sent a text message to a friend to ask out loud what the universe may have been trying to tell me.

My friend called me back and suggested that perhaps the message was that I should consider a 24-hour cancellation policy to inspire greater motivation to honor my time.  We also discussed my confirming coaching appointments just like I do business meetings.  Certainly these are valid practical ideas to consider, yet I had a strong sense that my morning commitments had fallen apart for another reason.  Ironically, it gave me the time to focus on a promotional project that I felt a sense of urgency about.

I shared this experience with a client this morning as we talked about her desire to get in touch with her life’s purpose.  She knows that there is something that she is here to do, yet like many people she hasn’t yet put her finger on it.  I suggested that she think of purpose as being a divine assignment.  None of us chooses our purpose on our own.  This means that we are led to our purpose through divine energy, which flows through every incident at every second.  It’s just like gravity.  It doesn’t work just the 8 to 5 shift.

Learning to look at the events of our lives as having purpose makes way for a tremendously positive shift to occur in how we experience life.  First, if we can surrender in trust that whatever is unfolding is meant to lead us to our higher good, we can let go of getting all bent out of shape when things don’t go the way we wanted or planned.  Secondly, if we expect that there is guidance behind all that is happening, we can more easily see the signs because we are looking for them in an expectant state.  You won’t see them if you don’t believe they are there.

I look at my life through eyes of splendor as I recognize the role that divine energy has played.  I “stumbled across” the home I’ve loved for ten years, my two sister cats who are the perfect pets for me, my most significant mentor and my opportunity last week to be on national radio.  I was not in control of any of these.  There’s a lot of peace and joy to be found in knowing that the divine is working overtime for us.  The least we can do is look for the signs being given to us in this labor of love.

love in an unvalentine day

I walked into a bank yesterday and was surprised by how festively decorated the lobby was in observance of Valentine’s Day.  There were hearts and bunches of pink, red and white balloons everywhere.  The teller that waited on me wore a red sweater with a colorful heart pin.  As I walked out of there in my black running gear I wondered who was behind all this festivity.  I wondered what had inspired this branch to go all out in its promotion of the love day.

I’d guess you’d say that I am at the other end of the spectrum.  I like to think that I celebrate the spirit of love everyday and feel more authentic by boycotting the holiday.  For me it is like going to church on Sundays. I live my spirituality every day and don’t feel the need to gather in a sacred space with others to feel connected with the divine.  I am aware that connection is with me constantly.

And so it is with love.  We were created from the love of divine energy.  If love is behind all of creation, love is really all that exists.  It surrounds us and flows through us every moment of every day. We just need to tune into it in our hearts and minds and believe in the supportive goodness of this love.  When we recognize that as creations of this divine energy, we are co-creators of life, we ignite the power within us to do, be, have or accomplish anything we desire.  And that is some pretty powerful stuff.  Have you thought about how this love wishes to express itself through you?

what are you willing to believe?

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A friend asked me offline to clarify something I made reference to in yesterday’s article, trusting your gut. Since my intention with this space is not simply to have a voice, but to make a difference, my friend’s feedback helped me to see how I can be more clear to make sure that my message comes across.

I mentioned yesterday about a sense I have about the presence of divine male energy supporting me this week. My awareness of it came from my meditation time on Sunday. While there are many forms of meditation, mine is a practice which enables me to tune in to the divine wisdom through which we are all connected. By this I mean that I believe that we are all connected by spiritual energy, which is essentially what we are. The fact that we are expressing ourselves in physical form right now tends to muddy this connection.

Tuning in to divine wisdom first requires that we believe it is there. Then we must believe that we can access it. We must also believe that this wisdom is here for us personally and that it has valuable guidance to deliver. It’s sort of like inheriting a board of directors. We can call on them for only the major decisions or we can choose to seek their leadership for ongoing matters. I happen to choose the latter. It gives me a sense of team. I’m not walking around thinking that I’m in this all on my own. The team keeps me tied to a sense of purpose.

Sunday’s meditation made way for a strong connection with my divine team. While I sat in a quiet state of trust, I felt connected to an energy that was communicating with me in a way I could understand. It was like having a dialog with trusted friends, not with words but through feelings. In the past I used to question whether I was just making up the whole scene, yet that is where the trust comes in. I now trust that when I tune out my mind and listen to my heart, there is information there that I should listen to.

Receiving guidance in meditation is not something new to me. What feels different for me this week is that the connection to this divine energy has stayed. It feels a part of my existence. I feel a higher power energy surrounding me. I also feel like there is a divine bodyguard that is clutching my right shoulder, protecting me and making sure that I stay on the right path.

When I think about this imagery and the messages I am getting, it resonates perfectly with where I am this week. In fact, it makes such sense that I could shrug it off as being too perfect to be credible and tell myself I am insane for believing in this stuff. But you know what? I know I didn’t make up what I am feeling. And there is a lot of strength and support to be found in believing it is real. So I am going with it. It works for me.

trusting your gut

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I looked at an office space in San Francisco the other day which was very lovely, affordable and in the right neighborhood. Yet I felt absolutely no energy around it in my heart so I passed on it. The experience made me aware of how much I have now come to trust my gut instincts to navigate through life. At the same time it seems that I have turned a corner where I no longer keep making the same mistakes over and over again. What a concept!

I’m experiencing that the more tuned in I am to my intuitive information, the more abundant I see it flowing through my life. This week I have a significant publicity event for my book, Unleashing Your Soul on Martha Stewart Living Radio (see article wrestling with fear of success). As I anticipate it now, I very much sense that there is some male divine energy partnering with me on this. It is like the feeling of being the front person with at least two other two guys supporting me on the side to make sure I reach my goals. While I do think there is something more to their involvement, at the very least lies the message that everything is going to be okay.

I share this because I think that is how intuition and divine wisdom often show up. It’s not through pats on our shoulders, email or carefully constructed voice mail. Rather it is through images and feelings that we get. We simply need to pay attention to this kind of stuff and give it credibility. It really does contain our most valuable guidance.

not taking life for granted

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I got together with a friend earlier this evening who was sharing about the best friend he lost to Esophageal cancer just three months ago.  The diagnosis was made in September and his friend bravely passed in November.  Wow. 

 As I took this in I got more clarity about the emotions that had come up for me while processing Anna Nicole Smith’s death.  I felt a shock.  While the media had led me to believe that she was dealing with emotional issues, the truth is that we all have issues that we deal with.   I assumed that she’d manage hers like I do mine and she’d live a ripe old age past me.

Her passing has reminded me that life can be taken away in an instant.  I think that intuitively we know this, yet intellectually we think little about it.  How would you spend your time if you really knew your days were limited?  How do you want to be remembered?

good-bye anna nicole

I felt a jolt to my heart when I read the headline on my web browser announcing the death of Anna Nicole Smith earlier today.  I wasn’t exactly what you’d call a fan, yet it was one of those pieces of news that stung me.  As I’ve been watching the media coverage this evening, I’ve been trying to put my finger on what exactly has moved me to have this reaction.  I feel a loss.

As I watched the video clips of her life this evening, I saw a woman I’d never seen before.  I was always too busy judging what she wore and how she acted to appreciate the spirit she brought to her life.  She knew exactly what her gifts were and she used them in a way that captivated us.  In her own way, she was being of service to the world.

Whether or not we agreed with her style, she brought to life a sense of passion that we don’t see very often.  And we tend to forget that we are connected as human family.  One of our more spirited ones have left us.  Of course we’re going to feel it.  The question becomes what have we learned from her?

your mind is not your own

I taught a class last night called “Letting Go to Fly Solo”, about finding the courage to let go of a secure job to begin a career sparked by passion. As the group shared about the mental obstacles they faced, they came to a unanimous conclusion that it came much more naturally to dwell upon all the stuff that could go wrong rather than focus on a dream of success. Why is it that it often requires such work to believe in ourselves?

I’ve been a student of A Course in Miracles for years, yet it wasn’t until this past year that its message came alive in my heart. We tend to think of ourselves as a body ruled by a mind that is completely our own. Yet consider that as creations of a divine power, we are extensions of that power and that includes our mind. We may think that our ideas are exclusively from our own making, yet our minds are an extension of the divine mind. Think of your mind like a computer tied to a network server. You may think you operate on your own, yet there is really a greater source of power behind everything you do, including your ideas.

Can you see the strength and courage to be found in recognizing that you share and inherit your ideas from a divine source? Your desires, passions and skills have been extended to you by divine energy. Might that mean they’ve come to you with the intention of being expressed? Does it seem reasonable to expect that our dreams are doomed to failure when they come from the divine?

Believe me, I know what it is like to be afraid to let go of something secure to jump into unknown territory. I’ve been there. Yet it was when I came to trust that the universe was a loving enough place that it made sense that I’d be better taken care of doing what I am here to do than some meaningless job that I was no longer into.

I used to be very turned off at the bible’s message to serve God. It seemed so authoritarian, like I was a kid being demanded to live by the principal’s rule. Yet now I get what it means. And there is so much power in my understanding. It’s about recognizing what we are being divinely called to do and then surrendering to it so that the divine can have its way. And if we believe that the divine is a loving source that knows what is best for all of us, maybe we all need to learn to cooperate so that this world can become a better place.