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Last night I listened on the phone as a friend opened up his heart about the voice message he had received from a woman who broke his heart a year ago.  It had been many months since they had any communication and there she was reaching out to him out of the blue.  All of the feelings he had over her and the heartbreak had come rushing back.  He was in turmoil.  I sat there on the other end of the phone just listening while he talked about what had come up for him.  I sensed him growing less upset as he let his feelings out.

I found it interesting that another former lover had contacted him just two days prior.  He hadn’t talked to this woman in months either.  That conversation had brought up old issues as well.  It seemed pretty clear to me what was going on yet when I hinted to him, he didn’t seem to get it.  That’s because I was looking at the situation from the perspective that there was divine energy behind what was unfolding here.  I didn’t believe the two calls were random incidences or coincidences.  I believe they had come to him flowing through the energy of spirit.

You see, my friend is about three weeks into a budding relationship with a new woman.  He adores her as a friend and feels that wonderful chemistry, yet he doesn’t want to jump in and declare his commitment to a romantic relationship until he gets to know her more.  He’s told me how different this new woman is in her inner beauty and emotional strength and it is clear that he sees her as strong potential for a romantic partner.  There they were, cruising rather smoothly building a fun friendship and then he gets hit with these two phone calls.  Hello!

Since he didn’t get my hints I tell him more directly about my theory.  Both these women had engaged with him in a way that didn’t treat his heart gently.  One kept changing her mind about whether or not she wanted him in her life.  The other was consistently verbally hurtful.  Here he was with this new woman who he described as being gentle.  For whatever reason, it seemed to me that the universe was inviting him to look closely at the dynamics of the various relationships and perhaps come to some understandings.  By the end of our conversation he did consider that there could have been a divine purpose behind the timing of these two calls.  And I expect he did some deeper thinking into the night.

So what is the benefit of recognizing the divine influence behind these two emotionally rattling phone calls?  There is great peace to be found in believing that we are always under the graceful care of the universe and that what may feel hurtful in the moment may actually be a loving nudge that something better is on the horizon.  Rather than looking at the black and white of what is in front of us now, remember that life is unfolding through divine energy.  This means that everything is connected.  There is always a message or purpose behind what happens.  So when things don’t go the way you want them to, consider what may be going on at a deeper level.  When you can surrender to the idea that everything leads us to our higher good, life becomes a much more peaceful adventure.

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As a life coach I have been struggling with how to bring spirituality into my practice without alienating people.  Yet spirituality is a mindset, a way of viewing and responding to life.  I’ve come to recognize that it’s not really necessary to talk to clients about the label of my mindset.  Instead I can simply focus on employing its theories to be effective in easing their challenges.

So what theories am I talking about?  In his bestselling book, There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, Wayne Dyer describes spirit as being the invisible energy that is the source and sustenance behind all of life and that every issue can be solved by accessing this power.  This is a fundamental teaching of A Course in Miracles, that we are all connected through the energy from which we were created and as extensions of this energy, we have all inherited access to its power.

Most of the people who come to me for coaching don’t arrive seeing their issues from a spiritual perspective.  That’s because our culture hasn’t quite embraced the spiritual side of life.  We’ve been conditioned to look at ourselves as separate bodies whose life experiences are made up of millions of random events that have no deeper meaning than what lies on the surface.  Yet when we begin to view life from a spiritual perspective, we acknowledge there is spiritual energy behind what is happening and accept that it has meaning and purpose.  By looking at our lives as if whatever is unfolding has a deeper meaning, we recognize that we are being divinely directed.  Rather than constantly use our intellect to drive our lives, we can surrender to the wisdom that lies inside of us.

One of the most common issues with clients who come to me is the desire to travel down a new career path, one that will provide them with a greater level of satisfaction and passion.  They express their frustration at how hard it is to figure out what exactly the new career might be.   We derive satisfaction and passion when we are aligned with our heart, the spiritual center within our body.  So rather than look to external resources to find one’s true path, I invite clients to look inside for the answers because they are all there.  It’s like being a detective looking for clues.

I find it very interesting that every one of us is unique in talents, skills and attributes.  Might there be a reason for this?  Might the intention behind our creation be that we use our unique packages to be of service to the world in the way that only we can?  As we begin to view our lives as having purpose, it becomes much easier to pick up the clues and run with them.

You will experience a new level of passion and sense of purpose when you give your existence credibility.  It’s the difference between jumping out of bed with a focus on how you can express your unique gifts in a way that is of service versus operating in machine mode with an eye just to get through the minutia of the day.  Like any new habit, this shift probably won’t occur overnight, yet you can begin by acknowledging that you are an extension of the creative energy behind all of life.  Then look at the package of who you are and have some fun with imagining what this energy had in mind when you were created.

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Have you ever felt an insight about something in the depths of your being that you know you didn’t conjure up yourself?  That perhaps that insight is about something that you feel you are supposed to do or be, yet you can’t remember having consciously chosen the assignment?  That’s exactly why I am coming out with this blog.  Slowly but surely I have been feeling pulled to share some understandings that have come to me that promote inner peace and our vast human potential.  The timing feels right.  We’ve evolved as a society that throws the word “spiritual” around.  Yet we talk about it so lightly that it is as if it were a food preference.  Why is it that we let ourselves be more educated about the journey to the Super Bowl than the powers of the universe?

Nearly twelve years ago I was hijacked onto a spiritual path when my then husband abruptly left me for another woman.  In one evening a bomb seemed to blow my life into pieces and I was left with the task of putting it back together.  I was in so much pain that I didn’t know how I would make it through the early days.  I kept asking myself why it happened to me.  And now I know.  In order for me to be doing the work I now do, I had to experience the journey.  I had to be shown how much peace can be found through a strong belief is a divine energy that knows more than I do about what is best for me.  I had to have my heart hurt badly so that I can feel compassion for others.  I had to be given reasons to experiment with my spiritual power in order to believe in it myself.

Twenty months ago I said good-bye to a successful 20-year corporate marketing career.  The money was good yet it no longer fit who I had become.  I had grown to recognize that there is a purpose behind why I am here.  As much as I wanted to hold onto my paycheck, I could no longer live with myself knowing that I was not doing what I am here to do.  So I quit.  I figured that if I show up for the role I am supposed to play in this grand scheme of life, the universe will take care of me just fine.

I am a certified spiritual counselor and life coach now.  I absolutely love my work.  It’s an extension of who I am naturally.  I can’t tell you how many times I shake my head in gratitude for being able to do what I am doing.  It is my soul’s work.  Yet I needed to come to certain understandings about the spiritual side of life before I could get to where I am today.  Somehow I feel called here to translate these understandings in a way the average person can relate to and perhaps even have some fun with.  So why do I feel called to talk about spirituality?  Because everything behind life is spiritual, whether we open our eyes or choose to remain blind to it.  If we all recognized what wisdom, power and peace can be received by accessing the spirit that flows through all of life, the topic would be far more popular than the football playoffs.  So I invite you to join in, comment or ask questions so that more and more of us can turn up the spiritual light on this planet.  After all, it is pretty dark around here right now.