It is a spectacular morning as I write this. The sky is clear blue and the air, blessed with warm sunshine, is carrying the smell of freshness in the slight breeze that is greeting me through the open windows. I feel so lucky to be alive. It’s times like this that I feel moved to reflect in awe about the magical nature of life. It’s magic because it is so perfect. I look at my own life with grateful wonder about how perfectly the pieces have all come together, even if it didn’t seem like it when they were in motion. And since we were all created equally, I have to imagine that your life has unfolded in the same way. After all, I don’t really think that the universe favors me.
The perfection that I feel particularly grateful for today is the gift of love that has been bestowed upon me. As I sit here thinking about it I wonder if this gift is a product of fate or the law of attraction. I know that it doesn’t really matter, yet it does make for a good debate over some key spiritual principles. You see, I’d been a dating gal for almost twelve years before I met Dean. I rode through this time first healing some deep scars that were left from a painful divorce and then trying to date with an open mind and a more evolved soul. Then as I became aware that my soul wanted more from me than sitting at my corporate desk, I began to sense that it also wanted me to cooperate before it would introduce me to Mr. Right. Although I continued to casually date an assortment of men, the idea stuck with me that I wouldn’t meet the right one until I settled a bit into my real life’s work. I don’t remember exactly when I first felt this. It just seemed to show up one day and it made sense.
I met Dean almost six months ago on Yahoo personals. I had dabbled on and off with those dating sites for a good three years, but this time I went in with a different attitude. Rather than it being an exercise of just going through the motions, this time I signed up with the belief that I could possibly meet a great man. Lesson #1: You have to believe that something is possible before it can become your reality.
I will never forget that first email that came over from Dean. It was the afternoon of New Year’s Eve and I was wrapping up business at my desk. Dean’s was one of about six profiles that I received in that delivery. Yet when I clicked on to his, I felt a burst of energy. And it wasn’t just because I thought he was cute. Lesson #2: Pay attention to your instincts.
I emailed him back and the rest is history unfolding. We are in the process of moving in together. I haven’t lived with anyone for twelve years so to say that this is a bit of an adjustment for me in an understatement.
I look at Dean as being a gift with intention from the universe. By that I mean that I can see all the reasons why he has come into my life at this time. It seems like the universe came through with what it knew would best support me to do the work I’m doing as well as provide me with a fun and loving companion to share the hours of life with. Lesson #3: The universe always provides you with what you need.
Sure, I had to wait for a long time to find a great love. Yet I suspect that I would have never pursued my calling had I been delightfully distracted by the companionship of love. I suppose the universe figured this out long before I did. Lesson #4: The universe knows better than you do about what is best for your higher good.
Thanks for visiting. I wish you an amazing journey.
Susan Hanshaw
susan@sanctuaryforchange.com
Oh, Susan…this is an awesome story 🙂 You know, I have (had) really mixed emotions about the whole on-line dating scene. I’ve only really delved into it once – and that is where I met my ex. Needless to say, it didn’t turn out to be a very pleasant experience and much of that revolved around the online dating scene. I have to admit to myself I’ve been very rough on it…very rough and cynical. I can see now that the Universe is able to use ANYTHING to bring us what we are wanting and what is in our highest good. Thank you for this. You’re the first person I’ve ‘met’ where this sort of thing has actually worked. I pray that you and Dean will continue and EXPAND in your most wonderful relationship!! Blessings and Abundance to you always! xoxox
Grace, thank you for your supportive words and sharing. I had always been cynical about the online dating scene UNTIL I began my wedding officiant business. To my surprise, a large percentage of couples that were tying the knot had met online. The proof was right in front of me. From there it required that I just develop the belief that it could possibly work for me, too. I just had to get out of my own way.
I guess it is easy for us to forget that the Internet is a creation of the Universe. Finding love there makes perfect sense.
Susan